You did not part, but for various reasons - your relationship depended. Can you forget everything and continue to live together? Even about betrayal, eternal criticism or lies? What is the exit cards? Explains Psychotherapist Ireneush Silski.

When you live together, different things can occur and threaten your happiness together. Should we forgive everything, for example, treason?

You can forgive everything. But this does not mean that you must forget everything. We need memory to not suffer again. Forgiveness is to prevent suspicion and suffering from all people around us. It is also important to remember what to forgive does not mean living with those who have caused us pain. These are two completely different problems.

The sorry process usually takes a lot of time. It is not enough to say "Well, I forgive you" and after that. Negative thoughts are returned, they cannot be removed immediately. Let's consider an example: Adam betrayed. The main problem is that what happened, destroys the world that they knew so far. At that moment, when Anya received an email from his lover, who provided clear photos, she lost an understanding of who she was. She believed in his intuition, in happiness and did not foresee what happened, so she no longer can trust himself, she cannot trust fate. I do not want to believe what she believed - the honesty of Adam. This should restore the beliefs about who she is, who is such Adam and what is the world. It is shock, and therefore it is important not to hide treachery under the carpet.

Isn't it better to shout about their regrets and never come back to this later?

Adam probably wanted to forget about it as soon as possible. He says: "Sorry, I did wrong, it will no longer happen again," and he expects Anya forgive him, will forget and leave him alone. However, this is unrealistic, the traitor will remember the betrayal for any reason, for example, if the one who deceived, late does not respond to the camera, go to work or returns to an unusual time or somehow strangely looks ...

A devotee has the right to these suspicions. She can't be silent, as she forgave, she should have the opportunity to talk about what she feels and thinks - as much as she needs. And she decide how much time it will take. The suspicion of the man who betrayed is justified, and he must wait, work on restoring self-confidence. And this will happen when Anya will stop thinking all the time and talk about it. This will be a sign that she really forgive.

Thinking makes sense?

If we give treason, the deception, something important under the carpet, we can be sure that they will return. Ray or late, because we live together, we learn each other that we are allowed and what we can not do. Therefore, if we say "without problems", we give permission to jump. Кто же возбуждает вас больше? Мы знаем, что геи вам не подходят, а женщины уже наскучили. На сцену выходят молодые транссексуалки Нижнего Новгорода и трансы Нижегородской области. Можно уговорить их на взаимный минет. Сделай себе сексуальный подарок.